{"id":7,"date":"2010-07-15T03:00:09","date_gmt":"2010-07-15T03:00:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/?p=7"},"modified":"2010-07-19T00:55:24","modified_gmt":"2010-07-19T00:55:24","slug":"love-don%e2%80%99t-live-here-anymore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/?p=7","title":{"rendered":"“Love don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t live here anymore”"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Recently, there has been an overload of articles, which focus on the fall of relationships within the black community. Most of these articles focus on interracial dating, divorce rates and why professional black women and men cannot find a mate. Today\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s black men and women have a hard time getting along. Every \u00e2\u20ac\u0153relationship specialist\u00e2\u20ac\u009d and \u00e2\u20ac\u0153love doctor\u00e2\u20ac\u009d in America thinks they have the solution. Everyone has his or her own issues. People fail to realize that even though many of these issues could be put in the same category, they still don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t relate to one another. For every cause, there is an effect.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In many situations, the person who claims that there aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t any good men or women out here, never stops to think, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I wonder what it is about me that attracts these people\u00e2\u20ac\u009d. Instead, you get the usual. You know the excuses, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153n*gga\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s aint sh*t\u00e2\u20ac\u009d, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t turn a h* into a housewife\u00e2\u20ac\u009d\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 so on and so on. Everybody wants to point the finger at somebody else. Could it be that we are looking in the wrong direction? Maybe it is everybody. Maybe we conditioned our environment to be this way. I mean, what did Chris Rock say, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153there are n*ggas and then there are black people\u00e2\u20ac\u009d. Maybe we are all behaving niggardly? <\/strong><\/p>\n

I mean TV is great example of how black people are, right? \u00e2\u20ac\u0153ba doop ba ba baaa, I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m lovin it!\u00e2\u20ac\u009d we all sing and dance for food right? I mean, our most popular figures on TV represent you and me. So, the lyrics you hear from these songs on popular black stations are how every black person thinks right. We all believe in \u00e2\u20ac\u0153boyfriend #2\u00e2\u20ac\u009d, all of our women \u00e2\u20ac\u0153need a sponsor\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6\u00e2\u20ac\u009d, all men have \u00e2\u20ac\u0153sideline b*tches\u00e2\u20ac\u009d\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s how this new generation thinks. I guess, I mean according to the music of today that is what WE want to hear. We no longer want to hear, Teddy Pendergrass type music, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153turn off the lights, and light a candle\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6\u00e2\u20ac\u009d we don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t want to hear about LOVE. Hell no! Who wants to make \u00e2\u20ac\u0153love\u00e2\u20ac\u009d anymore? Adultery and having a \u00e2\u20ac\u0153sideline boo\u00e2\u20ac\u009d is cool now. We practice hating each other ALL DAY LONG. We must love fighting and gang banging because we love posting those knock out videos on YOUTUBE. I think there are more videos of females fighting then there of men fighting on the internet. When did females stop being ladies and start being self proclaimed b*tches? All of us aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t negative, but we sure do like to put our business in the street. <\/strong><\/p>\n

According to our TV shows, black owned movies, and music, all we do is party, make babies and fight. We don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t even like each other. Black on Black crime is at a high. Race relations with each other are terrible. SO, if we don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t practice how to get along with our neighbors then how can we expect that same respect to be practiced within the house hold. TV has conditioned black people\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s minds on how black people should interact with one another. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s powerful. The youth see a bunch of \u00e2\u20ac\u0153actors\u00e2\u20ac\u009d wearing \u00e2\u20ac\u0153skinny jeans\u00e2\u20ac\u009d. Everyone starts to wear \u00e2\u20ac\u0153skinny jeans\u00e2\u20ac\u009d. A New York rapper uses the word \u00e2\u20ac\u0153guap\u00e2\u20ac\u009d to describe his money. Teenagers in Georgia start using that same term and they aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t even from that area. Music and entertainment is universal, it moves us all. If all you see, are black people reacting in the same manner all the time. Eventually that catches on too. Rappers should never revere as role models. But, the media tries it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s best to praise and glamorize them to be the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153prize possessions\u00e2\u20ac\u009d of the black community. So if everything that they rap about has nothing to do with showing women respect, being faithful and taking care of home. Then what are the chances the kids will follow that way of living\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Since when did what feels right become more important than what we know is right? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Recognize the source of the problem, look within, get yourself together and be happy. Then maybe, you will be ready and able to show someone else your self-worth. Stop being lazy and work at it. Maybe that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s what we need to keep this relationship working? Who knows? For every cause, there is an effect.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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