{"id":72,"date":"2010-12-01T06:25:19","date_gmt":"2010-12-01T06:25:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/?p=72"},"modified":"2010-12-01T06:51:10","modified_gmt":"2010-12-01T06:51:10","slug":"for-sistas-only","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/?p=72","title":{"rendered":"FOR SISTAS ONLY!!!"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a><\/strong>For decades, black woman have held their families together. Through all the pain and adversity that African Americans have endured, black woman have remained the essential key to every movement toward success. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Behind every strong black man is a strong black woman\u00e2\u20ac\u009d, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Black women are the backbone to their community\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 “I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m sure you have heard these metaphors before. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s true! Black women have stood strong since the beginning of time. From Harriet Tubman to Michelle Obama (standing strong for her man, through the turmoil) to Oprah\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Black women have proven they can make the best out of their situation, no matter what it is.<\/span><\/p>\n

My, My, My\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 how times have changed! Standards have changed drastically. Now, no one expects young black women to take on the same role that their grandmothers did when they were growing up. Black women nowadays don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have to work three jobs, take care of the kids, cook, clean and do other household duties\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 There are women who still do those things today but there aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t that many. Not to say that black woman in this day in age aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t capable, but with the current shift in household expectations (men do more around the house), it isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t necessary.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now, I will admit, single black women don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have much to choose from nowadays. With a lot of black men going to jail, getting murdered or just not living up to expectations (Not true for every black man). It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s hard for a black woman who has experienced success to meet another black man on the same level\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6<\/span><\/p>\n

Black women nowadays need to get it together as well. You shouldn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t lower standards in order to meet somebody (your soul mate). But at the same time, we won\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t ignore the issues that black women have today. You see females on TV that represent part of the problem, almost everyday. Nicki Minaj, Alicia Keys (just got married to a man who left his wife for her), Beyonce (almost, always half naked whenever you see her on TV)\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 There aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t too many positive black women that the youth can look up to. Being able to pay your bills and live on your own qualifies as being \u00e2\u20ac\u0153a strong black woman\u00e2\u20ac\u009d nowadays. Is that it? Isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t that what you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re supposed to do? How does that make you strong?\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 there are so many black women who don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t take accountability for their actions and the situations around them. Black women don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t realize they can impact their community more than black men can.<\/span><\/p>\n

Believe it or not, black men will get themselves together when black women raise their standards. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s like what Chris Rock said, “if women didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t like men with nice houses, most men would live in a card board box.” As funny as that is, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s true, most men are motivated by what is considered attractive… success!<\/span><\/p>\n

So if a young black men notices that a lot of black women respect and admire a man who looks and acts like lil Wayne (nowhere near a positive role model). As bizarre as that sounds, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s true! Men conform themselves to what society perceives as successful for an African American male. In the black community, today, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s rappers and ball players (not known to be good role models). So, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s not to say it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the black woman\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s fault for the downfall of the black community. But, if most black woman decide they want to speak out against their peers who aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t raising their kids the right way and take control of situations that need to be corrected. It will make a positive change. Most times, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s not about what you have to say about a situation, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s what you do. Actions speak louder than words and black women are still, and will forever be the backbone of their family!<\/span><\/p>\n

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For decades, black woman have held their families together. Through all the pain and adversity that African Americans have endured, black woman have remained the essential key to every movement toward success. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Behind every strong black man is a strong black woman\u00e2\u20ac\u009d, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Black women are the backbone to their community\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 “I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m sure you have heard<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-72","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/72","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=72"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/72\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=72"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=72"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.blacksenses.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=72"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}