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“Love don’t live here anymore”

Recently, there has been an overload of articles, which focus on the fall of relationships within the black community. Most of these articles focus on interracial dating, divorce rates and why professional black women and men cannot find a mate. Today’s black men and women have a hard time getting along. Every “relationship specialist” and “love doctor” in America thinks they have the solution. Everyone has his or her own issues. People fail to realize that even though many of these issues could be put in the same category, they still don’t relate to one another. For every cause, there is an effect.

In many situations, the person who claims that there aren’t any good men or women out here, never stops to think, “I wonder what it is about me that attracts these people”. Instead, you get the usual. You know the excuses, “n*gga’s aint sh*t”, “can’t turn a h* into a housewife”… so on and so on. Everybody wants to point the finger at somebody else. Could it be that we are looking in the wrong direction? Maybe it is everybody. Maybe we conditioned our environment to be this way. I mean, what did Chris Rock say, “there are n*ggas and then there are black people”. Maybe we are all behaving niggardly?

I mean TV is great example of how black people are, right? “ba doop ba ba baaa, I’m lovin it!” we all sing and dance for food right? I mean, our most popular figures on TV represent you and me. So, the lyrics you hear from these songs on popular black stations are how every black person thinks right. We all believe in “boyfriend #2”, all of our women “need a sponsor…”, all men have “sideline b*tches”… that’s how this new generation thinks. I guess, I mean according to the music of today that is what WE want to hear. We no longer want to hear, Teddy Pendergrass type music, “turn off the lights, and light a candle…” we don’t want to hear about LOVE. Hell no! Who wants to make “love” anymore? Adultery and having a “sideline boo” is cool now. We practice hating each other ALL DAY LONG. We must love fighting and gang banging because we love posting those knock out videos on YOUTUBE. I think there are more videos of females fighting then there of men fighting on the internet. When did females stop being ladies and start being self proclaimed b*tches? All of us aren’t negative, but we sure do like to put our business in the street.

According to our TV shows, black owned movies, and music, all we do is party, make babies and fight. We don’t even like each other. Black on Black crime is at a high. Race relations with each other are terrible. SO, if we don’t practice how to get along with our neighbors then how can we expect that same respect to be practiced within the house hold. TV has conditioned black people’s minds on how black people should interact with one another. It’s powerful. The youth see a bunch of “actors” wearing “skinny jeans”. Everyone starts to wear “skinny jeans”. A New York rapper uses the word “guap” to describe his money. Teenagers in Georgia start using that same term and they aren’t even from that area. Music and entertainment is universal, it moves us all. If all you see, are black people reacting in the same manner all the time. Eventually that catches on too. Rappers should never revere as role models. But, the media tries it’s best to praise and glamorize them to be the “prize possessions” of the black community. So if everything that they rap about has nothing to do with showing women respect, being faithful and taking care of home. Then what are the chances the kids will follow that way of living… Since when did what feels right become more important than what we know is right?

Recognize the source of the problem, look within, get yourself together and be happy. Then maybe, you will be ready and able to show someone else your self-worth. Stop being lazy and work at it. Maybe that’s what we need to keep this relationship working? Who knows? For every cause, there is an effect.

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