Archive for January, 2011
Now I know a lot of you are going to disagree and even hate me for this. However, it is ok, I don’t mind. Sorry, but somebody has to say it!
Now, at some point in life we’re all going to be hypocritical. I don’t care who you are; at some point, you will have a derogatory opinion about a situation someone is going through. Given that nobody is perfect (stop acting like your s*&t don’t stink), you never had the right to offer a suggestion or an opinion in the first place.
Regardless of what you have been through, abortion should very well be an option for most people. Now, that might sound cruel but it is something that isn’t as bad as you think. People who had no business making babies in the first place consumed most of the murderers, rapist and overall bad people in this world. Not to say that every criminal was born into a bad situation but, let’s be honest. We all know somebody who is not fit to be a parent. Either they don’t like kids or they don’t treat their children with the love, support and guidance that every child needs. You can’t lie and say that you have never had that thought… “I feel sorry for those kids, look at how he/she treats them”… “I wish them the best but, he/she is leading them down the wrong road.”
The children you conceive suffer most! You must be well prepared to conceive a child. You knew you could not afford a child, so why would you have one? That’s like buying a house worth $300,000 and you only make $30k a year. You’re living pay check to pay check trying to afford it, when you can barely do for yourself.
It kills me to hear some of the excuses. Some use religion as a convenient excuse. Well, most of us sin every day; all sins are the same. No one sin weighs more than the other does…
Please don’t mistake me for some kind of monster. I know it sounds harsh; every human being deserves the chance to live… but these kids don’t deserve some of the awful situations in which they are born. Child abuse, child molestation and all other unruly acts towards children usually happen within the home in which the child lives. Folks! If you know you don’t like kids… if you know you don’t have the time or the patience to raise one, why wouldn’t you practice safe sex? Alternatively, use your right of PRO CHOICE… The best option of all *drum roll*… ADOPTION!… Give these kids to someone who cares. There is a loving home with grateful people out there willing to take care of your child.
Damn, look at this link my colleague sent me. This is what I was referring to in my previous post:
I can’t even imagine the struggles you had to go through in your journey. I thank you from the bottom of my heart, you lead a great movement that allowed me and my peers to progress. You truly paved the way for us!
At the same time, I apologize on behalf of my peers. Some of us have done some great things through the opportunities that we are given. Others?… well, lets just say they really need MORE HELP! I don’t know where we went wrong Dr. King. Instead of uplifting each other, we tear each other down (crabs in a barrel theory). There is so much senseless violence going on that the black male population is scarce! Believe it or not, there is no need for the KKK. Racist organizations from other races don’t need to be active anymore. They just sit back and watch us self-destruct. We destroy ourselves mentally and physically. Black on black violence is ridiculously high!
People outside of our race use us as lab rats in their studies and we allow it. Most the documentaries that focus on Blacks are disrespectful and exploitation at its finest. Our minds are poisoned. It’s to the point we have stereotyped ourselves. During your time period, our people would have been outraged at some of these commercials geared toward black people. Most of which, depict blacks in a negative light (single parent home… loves chicken and juice… talks and looks ghetto, ect…).
The most disappointing factor of our generation is the lack of education. It’s disheartening to say the least. We are given so many resources and we don’t care to use them. Our generation is spoiled. We don’t realize how important an education is. It’s gotten to the point that a mindless and shallow mentality is revered over anything scholarly. Going to class is a thing of the past. Black people are so “star struck” and mesmerized by being a “celebrity” that we aren’t realistic anymore. We don’t plan for the future and establish back-up plans that will allow us to be successful if our dreams fall through. Instead, most of us invest all of our time into “get rich quick schemes”. Black entertainers are more admired than black scholars.
We have made of a mockery ourselves. Nobody is aiding us down the path of destruction. We are characterized as having bad attitudes, being lazy, and constantly hating on one another… For some reason, we were better when we were fighting for a cause then we are when opportunities are given to us. Dr. King, I’m sorry to tell you that you were misunderstood. Our community believes we can’t think for ourselves. Instead, most of us believe that change will only come when we follow a leader. So we think that books and seminars on self-improvement will better our situation instead of simply working hard and relying on our relationship with God to see us through…
Maybe someday we’ll get “the point”. Until that day… I apologize!
You ever notice that whenever you have a problem, the wrong people try to give you advice. The advice is good but the person with the answers needs to listen to themselves talk because they are worse off than you are. It’s funny whenever you have relationship problems, the guy who is on his third marriage wants to hand you a book that provides solutions. It’s all a joke.
But it doesn’t stop there… The credibility of the speaker is only part of the problem in most cases. The real problem is found in the audience. Now some people actually benefit from the message because it might promote self-awareness, confidence and faith. But these people aren’t the problem, they’re usually the people wondering if the people around them will ever change. You have to know who you are talking to. In most cases, the message always refers back to the bible. The bible is used as a reference to teach what’s right and wrong. But, that’s where it goes wrong.
Not everybody worships, respects and understands God and his word as much as others. Everybody knows about God. Whether you have a close relationship or just know that God exist… or not, you’ve heard of a higher power at some point in life… When it comes to God’s word, there is a lot of misunderstanding going on. You often hear sinners reply “God understands me,” as if the punishment for SINS doesn’t apply to them. They misunderstand what true repentance means. They don’t understand that when you repent, you are asking for forgiveness and telling God that you won’t do it again. In other words, they receive the message but the message hasn’t quite reached them in the way it was meant.
Think about it, if the man who cheated on his wife understood the severity of adultery and unfaithfulness to his marriage, would he still be willing to do the things he does? Or would he practice obedience?
Most times, the message is intended for those who are concerned with certain issues, need a solution and actually know God. Let’s take into account that the people who should be listening, aren’t listening. The message is given with good intentions but when you fail to take into account the audience views and who it is meant for, its bad advice.
After a while it looks like you’re just trying to make money with these relationship books and seminars. Most of the time the message is only informative because it’s telling women and men what they should do but it’s given in way that only grabs the attention of the victims (people who want change) instead of the offenders (people who need to change for the better).
(Creative structure—done my way :))
“Make your next move, your best move”, “Misery loves company so watch the friends you keep”, “Don’t be so stubborn because change is inevitable”, “Every man dies but not every man lives”, “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on”… These are quotes that we’ve all heard at some point in life.
We all hear and learn inspirational quotes every day but, how often do we actually listen? How often do we put our pride to the side and actually admit we have problems/issues? Believe it or not, if you have too much drama and negativity in your life it’s because you allowed it to be there. A lot of people don’t realize that most of the issues they deal with have easy solutions. We tend to create an invisible barrier for ourselves when it comes to certain issues. Anything negative isn’t worth dealing with. So, they say anything worth having is going to be hard work but, sometimes it might not be worth the trouble.
These issues are the same reason why people have so many New Year’s resolutions. They believe that the New Year will magically change their lives for the better. Little do they know that change can only come from within? You have to be passionate and truly believe that you have a problem, and then go from there. Once you have figured out the problem, come up with a solution and practice repetition toward that change.
But you’ve heard it all before… and if you haven’t made that change yet, then you need to reassess you situation… at that point, you have to think about it. Maybe it’s not the people and situations around you that cause you problems… Maybe… just maybe, you are the problem.
Short and sweet 🙂